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He is focused on the wrong things. Competition is usually the first culprit.  These days and age, sex appeal and having the baddest chick is more important than anything.  It’s practically shoved down our throats on social media.  Men talk and give each other kudos for picking out a “baddie.”  Although she may be drop dead gorgeous, she may not complement the man.  Some men need too much clout and get clouded by attraction and style only. I think that’s how some men wind up becoming cheaters.  They get physical

I’m no dating expert, but have learned from my mistakes and how to make better decisions. My best friend once told me to make a list of all the traits I wanted my partner to have.  Then she said, don’t settle for anyone unless they can fulfill your list.  You may find that you compromise on a few items, but you should not falter on your whole entire list. If you know what you want, then you know what to look for.  But on the flip-side, you must also know

Unfortunately, most women don’t truly know thyself.  They may know what they like, but fail to understand what they need.  Most of this is due to the lack of being honest with oneself.  You have to understand your personality, demeanor, energy, needs and wants in order to find someone who complements your style.  You have to be in tune with your own spirit to understand when you find someone who vibes with it.  I call this chemistry. We all have positive and negative traits, but the average person refuses to

I have kept a journal since I was in 3rd grade.  I used to have a physical notebook, but converted it to electronic format in 2012 so I could write on the go.  I haven’t written in my journal for months. I usually only do so when something is weighing me down or so exciting that I must get it out.  I hardly ever go back and read my journal entries, but the other day, my life coach told me I needed to start jotting down my business ideas.  I

Just Don’t Cheat

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I’ve been wanting to write about cheating for a long time, but fall victim to procrastination. To be honest, I wanted to write about it during the whole Jay-Z and Beyonce Lemonade scandal, but didn’t. Every time a new story is hot, I wait too long to write about it, but the sad part is, there’s always another story; you know like Tristan Thompson, Kevin Hart and Donald Trump Jr. to name a few. Simply put, cheating is one of the worst things you can ever do to your partner.

A lot of people share their relationships with me and confide in me for advice. Often when I hear them explain their problems, I notice common themes surrounding their arguments. Communication is huge in relationships. But I’m starting to realize a lot of people think communication is delimited to explaining how you feel to someone. Although it’s important to express your feelings and emotions in relationships, we must understand that they aren’t tangible and are nothing more than figments of our imagination. The communication we should have is why those

True Love

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I’m starting to understand what true love really means. It’s an involuntary act of genuine concern. When you love someone, you are in love with their entire being. You care about their feelings, their level of contentment, their state of happiness, their personal well-being, their endeavors, ambitions, goals and desires. You are attracted to their very essence of life. You are compassionate towards them and consider them when making decisions. They have the ability to alter your behaviors because of how much you care about them. You are influenced by

My friend tagged me to this post and I honestly didn’t know what to expect when I read it. But after reading it the first thing that came to mind is that marriage is not for the individual, it is for the partner. I think too many people feel that they will be fulfilled when they finally marry and unfortunately those are selfish reasons. If you are not already happy, content, satisfied and financially savvy by yourself, no one else will ever be able to provide that because they come

I’m no expert on relationships by any means but definitely consider myself experienced in the realm of dating. When I finally landed myself in the most awesome relationship ever, I quickly learned our bond did not occur because the stars were finally in alignment, but because we shared some of the same traits as successful couples. I realized we were not any better or more special than anyone else who found true love. As I talked to friends and family who were either married or in loyal relationships, I developed

Women: Know Your Worth

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My uncle once told me no man will ever leave a woman alone until she leaves him alone.  I was in a miserable relationship at the time in which we broke up, made up and broke up again.  He did so many horrible things to me that I am literally too embarrassed to share.  I was too weak to break the relationship on my own and prayed my crazy ex would just leave me first, but that never happened.  My family was extremely annoyed that I would allow a man

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