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I will never forget writing a 5-page essay about how inhumane, evil and murderous abortions were. I was a senior in high school and I got an A+ on my essay. Then I grew up and changed my views because I realized life is not always just black and white and some things are not my business. I live in the second state in our nation where our governors just passed one of the most heinous abortion laws. Basically, a woman cannot seek an abortion due to the gender and

Be Honest

Barbie and Heman

I used to love playing with Barbie when I was a little girl. And to be totally honest, I didn’t really care what color she was either. I just loved how fashionable she was and could play for hours. I had the whole Barbie getup from houses, bikes and cars to school classrooms and veterinarian hospitals. Unfortunately, Barbie has been the cause of self-image issues for little girls. Barbie is criticized that her shape is unrealistic and gives little girls a false sense of beauty. Meanwhile, little boys are playing

True Love

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I’m starting to understand what true love really means. It’s an involuntary act of genuine concern. When you love someone, you are in love with their entire being. You care about their feelings, their level of contentment, their state of happiness, their personal well-being, their endeavors, ambitions, goals and desires. You are attracted to their very essence of life. You are compassionate towards them and consider them when making decisions. They have the ability to alter your behaviors because of how much you care about them. You are influenced by

This topic has been on my mind for years, but it really hit me in a different light when I saw Rihanna’s dress at the CFDA awards in 2014. My initial thoughts were quite common like why do us women feel the need to be nude and naked to sell ourselves? Why do we feel the need to expose the most intimate parts of our bodies for a fashion statement? I thought about the example we were leaving for our young women and then a very human thought dominated all

While writing the precursor to this blog I realized my perspective is quite skewed. I guess it makes sense that I present things from a female’s POV (point of view) considering I am a female. Being around men reminds me of just how different men and women are and how much we will never fully understand each other which honestly is what keeps us intrigued by one another. However, I want to be very careful that my biased perspective is not intended to tear down women or single mothers by

I went to an IMPD forum regarding racial profiling in Indianapolis. The community shared disheartening stories and exclaimed outrage for being targeted on the sole basis of being black. Many of the panelist contributed greatly to the discussion, but Dr. David Hampton had the soundest observation. He said one of the biggest problems our community faces today is the lack of fathers. Of course we have all heard this statement before, but the way he explained it really struck a chord for me and hit home. He said, it’s usually

And then there was Ferguson. There are several elements to this case that I want to discuss in grave details. Ultimately my message will not be like the typical messages I have seen spewed all over social media. Instead it will be a message that includes internal changes and reformations for black people. Michael Brown should not have died. That is first and foremost. Regardless of what crime he committed or how unruly he may have been towards the cowardly police officer, he did not deserve to have his life

As a woman living in a world that is so male dominated, I found myself devaluing women as if our contributions to relationships were not important. It wasn’t until I matured that I realized just how special and empowered women truly are. Due to our gender roles in society, men are typically reared to become bread winners, leaders and protectors of their families. Women are taught to be resourceful, nurturing and supportive. What I have learned is that often times because a dollar amount is not associated with womanly duties

Trust me I’m no expert when it comes to dating and have had my fair share of broken hearts on the battlefield. However, I’m no idiot either and finally learned a few lessons from my mistakes. Since then I have developed my own philosophy of dating that I especially wrote for my ladies, but feel any gender can benefit. It’s not that God chooses who He will and will not bless with a good partner, it’s up to you to understand what kind of person you are as well as