This topic has been on my mind for years, but it really hit me in a different light when I saw Rihanna’s dress at the CFDA awards in 2014. My initial thoughts were quite common like why do us women feel the need to be nude and naked to sell ourselves? Why do we feel the need to expose the most intimate parts of our bodies for a fashion statement? I thought about the example we were leaving for our young women and then a very human thought dominated all

My friend tagged me to this post and I honestly didn’t know what to expect when I read it. But after reading it the first thing that came to mind is that marriage is not for the individual, it is for the partner. I think too many people feel that they will be fulfilled when they finally marry and unfortunately those are selfish reasons. If you are not already happy, content, satisfied and financially savvy by yourself, no one else will ever be able to provide that because they come

I stumbled across an interesting article on Facebook titled, “Undecided? 5 Reasons Why Going Natural is a BAD IDEA!” I have been wanting to write a blog on natural hair for a very long time but wasn’t sure how to present it in a neutral manner. I didn’t want to make any woman feel bad or guilty for her hair decisions and simply wanted to empower women to be natural. This article gave me the perfect platform to present my case. Now, I realize people are entitled to their opinions,

While writing the precursor to this blog I realized my perspective is quite skewed. I guess it makes sense that I present things from a female’s POV (point of view) considering I am a female. Being around men reminds me of just how different men and women are and how much we will never fully understand each other which honestly is what keeps us intrigued by one another. However, I want to be very careful that my biased perspective is not intended to tear down women or single mothers by

Why not?! I truly believe natural black women have taken this stance way too far! When I hear black women with this attitude, I don’t feel like they are preserving their blackness, instead they are making it appear that their hair is better than someone else’s. What makes your hair more untouchable than the next persons? People want to touch you hair because they like it or really just like hair. Me, myself am a hair fanatic! To the freaking core, do you hear me! I love hair, all kinds

I’m no expert on relationships by any means but definitely consider myself experienced in the realm of dating. When I finally landed myself in the most awesome relationship ever, I quickly learned our bond did not occur because the stars were finally in alignment, but because we shared some of the same traits as successful couples. I realized we were not any better or more special than anyone else who found true love. As I talked to friends and family who were either married or in loyal relationships, I developed

I went to an IMPD forum regarding racial profiling in Indianapolis. The community shared disheartening stories and exclaimed outrage for being targeted on the sole basis of being black. Many of the panelist contributed greatly to the discussion, but Dr. David Hampton had the soundest observation. He said one of the biggest problems our community faces today is the lack of fathers. Of course we have all heard this statement before, but the way he explained it really struck a chord for me and hit home. He said, it’s usually

Women: Know Your Worth

Beautiful Tears

My uncle once told me no man will ever leave a woman alone until she leaves him alone.  I was in a miserable relationship at the time in which we broke up, made up and broke up again.  He did so many horrible things to me that I am literally too embarrassed to share.  I was too weak to break the relationship on my own and prayed my crazy ex would just leave me first, but that never happened.  My family was extremely annoyed that I would allow a man

And then there was Ferguson. There are several elements to this case that I want to discuss in grave details. Ultimately my message will not be like the typical messages I have seen spewed all over social media. Instead it will be a message that includes internal changes and reformations for black people. Michael Brown should not have died. That is first and foremost. Regardless of what crime he committed or how unruly he may have been towards the cowardly police officer, he did not deserve to have his life

Words have Power

wordpower

Why do we love to support stupidity?! From terrible music that is literally brain poisoning all the way down to people’s silly antics to get attention. This subject has been brewing on my mind for months after I participated in our local Hip Hop Panel this past summer. The event was put together at the height of racial tension in my hometown where local news stations blamed DJ’s for their racy fliers and “ghetto, dope” crowds who came out and displayed violent and inappropriate behaviors. Without getting into all of

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